Selasa, 26 April 2011

Sauh Kehidupan (Bhg 2)

Artikel ini adalah sambungan kepada Artikel Sauh Kehidupan yang terbit pada 4 Dec 2010 yang lalu.



Diantara penyebab atau punca yang menjadi faktor penggalak terhadap kegagalan, kesedihan dan kesakitan didalam kehidupan kita adalah TANGGAPAN ASAS dalam diri kita sendiri

Tanggapan Asas (TA) yang dimaksudkan ini ialah sistem kepercayaan atau corak pemikiran kita yang paling asas yang kita gunakan dalam menanggapi kehidupan kita sendiri.

Bila bercakap tentang sistem kepercayaan, saya tidak bermaksud mengaitkan dengan Kepercayaan dan Keimanan kepada ugama, politik dan lain-lain. Tetapi TA ini adalah berkaitan dengan ‘minda separa sedar’ kita.

TA ini sebenarnya amat tersembunyi dan terselindung didalam diri setiap dari kita dan kadang-kala kita bagaikan tidak pernah menyedari betapa pentingnya perkara ini. Ia sebenarnya mengawal dan malah kadangkala ia bersikap mengongkong diri kita dan membuatkan diri kita ‘tidak bebas’ kerana terperangkap dalam situasi ‘limiting believe’ yang membuatkan kita sukar untuk maju dan memiliki kehidupan sepertimana yang kita inginkan.

Dengan memiliki TA yang salah, kita hanya akan memiliki kehidupan yang terhad sepertimana yang terdapat dalam TA diri kita.

BAGAIMANAKAH TA YANG TERSEMBUNYI INI BOLEH BERTEMPAT DIDALAM DIRI KITA?

Untuk memudahkan kita memahami konsep ini, mari kita bayangkan bahawa diri kita adalah sebuah kapal, dan kehidupan adalah seumpama lautan dan kita sedang menuju ke destinasi yang ditetapkan untuk kita (akhirat).

Di awal kehidupan yang baru bermula, kita adalah sebuah kapal yang serba baru, dengan enjin, peralatan yang semuanya serba baru dan berkeadaan sangat bagus. Dan kita pun memulakan pelayaran kita kedalam lautan kehidupan. Perjalanan kita diperingkat awal amat lancar dan mudah.

Kemudian, masih didalam peringkat perjalanan paling awal, kapal kita mula menerima ‘sauh’ daripada orang-orang yang berada disekeliling kita, satu persatu. Mereka memasangkan sauh ini ke dalam kapal kita dengan tujuan yang baik dan mulia. Iaitu ingin membantu kita supaya mendapat arah perjalanan yang betul.

Pada mulanya, dengan kehadiran sauh –sauh ini, perjalanan kita kelihatannya bertambah baik dan teratur.

Masa terus berlalu, semakin lama semakin banyak sauh dipasang diatas kapal kita oleh orang ramai yang berada disekeliling kita . Kapal kita semakin berat, kerana semakin banyak sauh, perjalan terasa lambat, sukar dan tidak lancar. Malah ada antara kita yang terhenti perjalanan dan terapung-apung ditengah lautan kehidupan. Kapal kita seolah kehilangan arah, dan terkandas, kerana terlalu banyak sauh yang dipasang dan merantai perjalanan kita.

Kita menjadi seperti tenggelam punca, dan kita juga tidak tahu bahawa ini berpunca dari terlalu banyak sauh yang telah dipasang pada kapal kita. Kita mencari-cari jalan dan penyelesaian, tetapi tidak berjumpa, kita bertemu dengan beberapa orang yang singgah di kapal kita, mereka menawarkan pertolongan dengan memasangkan lagi beberapa sauh. Masalah kita tidak selesai, akan tetapi bertambah berat.

Kadangkala kita sendiri bagai sudah tiada ruang untuk berdiri didalam kapal kita sendiri, kerana ruang didalam kapal kita sudah sangat sempit dipenuhi dengan pelbagai sauh.

Keadaan ini menyebabkan kita semakin bersendirian kerana tiada siapa yang sudi datang bertamu didalam kapal kita yang sempit dan sesak sebegitu.

Sesekali kita bertembung dengan kapal-kapal yang seusia dengan kita, akan tetapi kita mendapati kapal mereka sangat laju, lancar dan efisien. Mereka menjemput kita singgah sebentar dikapal mereka. Kita merasa amat sedih dan malu apabila mendapati kapal mereka amat mewah, bahagia dan tenang. Mereka memiliki sedikit sahaja sauh dan ianya amat ringan dan sangat berguna untuk pelayaran mereka.

Apakah kapal mereka tidak dipenuhi dengan sauh-sauh yang tak berguna seperti kapal kita? Tiadakah sesiapa meletakkan sauh-sauh tersebut pada kapal mereka?
Kita merasa sedih, rendah diri, dan kebingungan.

Akhirnya kita mengakui bahawa kita tak dapat tidak, sangat bergantung kepada kapal kita untuk meneruskan kehidupan. Kita tidak boleh meninggalkan kapal kita. Dan sauh-sauh yang memenuhi ruang kapal kita telah menjadi sebahagian dari hidup kita dan kita juga tidak mampu hidup tanpa sauh-sauh itu. Maka kita meneruskan pelayaran kehidupan kita dengan keadaan yang amat sukar, berat dan sangat menyakitkan.

~Bersambung~

Ahad, 24 April 2011

Tips Menarik Dari Pembaca

Kali ini saya ingin kongsikan pandangan beserta tips yang amat menarik dari salah seorang pembaca:



Allah berfirman di dalam sebuah Hadis Qudsi yang masyhur,

"Aku bersama sangkaan hamba-Ku terhadapku".

Sekiranya anda menyangka bahawa nasib anda selalu buruk, maka Allah jadikan ia kenyataan. Sekiranya anda menyangka doa anda tidak makbul, maka Allah jadikan ia kenyataan. Sekiranya hati kecil anda beranggapan bahawa solat hajat anda hanya usaha yang sia-sia,

MAKA ALLAH JADIKANNYA KENYATAAN.

Cara untuk mengatasi masalah sebegini, saya selalu bertanya kepada individu yang datang mengadu..

"Awak rasa, berapa peratus daripada doa awak yang akan dimakbulkan Allah?"

jika dia menjawab "50-50"

Saya kata, ertinya hanya 50 peratus. Maka untuk dapatkan 100 peratus, sekurang-kurangnya awak kena berdoa (atau solat hajat) sebanyak DUA KALI.

jika dia jawab "10%"

Saya kata, "jika begitu awak hanya perlu berdoa sebanyak 10 kali untuk mendapatkan perkara yang awak hajati!"

Cuma, berdoalah dengan bersungguh-sungguh..hormati adab berdoa, bersihkan diri dahulu dengan solat sunat taubat dan sebagainya...barulah minta. 'Hutang' anda dengan Allah (solat fardhu) tu, bayarlah dulu.. contohnya jika anda berdoa dalam waktu Asar, dah solat Asar ke belum?

Dan syarat paling utama..SANGKA BAIK TERHADAP ALLAH. Bermakna anda perlu bersangka baik terhadap takdir dan nasib anda. Jangan salahkan Allah jika sejak dari mula kita sudah bersangka buruk terhadap takdir diri kita. Allah hanya menjadikannya kenyataan...kerana kita manusia adalah KHALIFAHNYA di bumi ini.

Credit to :Is-Haque

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Selasa, 19 April 2011

Forgiveness

"Forgiveness is the answer to the child's dream of a miracle by which what is broken is made whole again, what is soiled is made clean again."
Dag Hammarskjold

"To forgive is the highest, most beautiful form of love. In return, you will receive untold peace and happiness."
Robert Muller

Forgiveness. One of those things many of us struggle with from time to time. But why should we forgive? And how can we go about it
Here are a few timeless thoughts on forgiveness. I hope you'll find something useful.

1. Forgiveness sets you free.

"When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free."
Catherine Ponder

I think this is a great point and one of the best reasons I have found to forgive. It's easy to get wrapped up in thinking that forgiveness is just about something you "should do". But forgiving can in a practical way be extremely beneficial for you.

As long as you don't forgive someone you are linked to that person. Your thoughts will return to the person who wronged you and what s/he did over and over again. The emotional link between the two of you is so strong and inflicts much suffering in you and - as a result of your inner turmoil - most often in other people around you too.

When you forgive you do not only release the other person. You set yourself free too from all of that agony.

2. Forgive yourself.


"The remarkable thing is that we really love our neighbour as ourselves: we do unto others as we do unto ourselves. We hate others when we hate ourselves. We are tolerant toward others when we tolerate ourselves. We forgive others when we forgive ourselves. We are prone to sacrifice others when we are ready to sacrifice ourselves."
Eric Hoffer

What you think and feel about other people is often what you think and feel about yourself. This is not something that may always be obvious. But we do tend to judge and think about people as we think about ourselves. A person who, for instance, is very critical of others tends to, deep down, be very critical of him/herself.

So how do you get better at forgiving others? You can start by forgiving yourself. Because when you start to forgive yourself you get some practise with forgiveness and you also realise how good it feels. You open up to how forgiveness can improve your life and lives of the people around you.

By forgiving yourself - instead of resenting yourself for something you did a week or 10 years ago - you make this habit more and more of a natural part of you. And so forgiving others becomes easier too.

Also, what you think is a question of forgiving others you may sometimes - after some time and inner struggle - discover is just as much, if not more, about forgiving yourself rather than the other person.

3. Remember to forgive everyone.

"We read that we ought to forgive our enemies; but we do not read that we ought to forgive our friends."
Sir. Francis Bacon

It's often pretty easy to see the obvious people to forgive. People who have done something terrible or someone you don't get along with at all.

It's sometimes hard to see that you should forgive yourself for something. It can also be hard to remember to forgive people close to you. There might be relationships where forgiveness could resolve some vague resentment or other negativity that sometimes arises between you and another person.

When you feel such emotions is can be useful to ask yourself questions like: what is unresolved here? Or just: why do I feel this way towards this person? You may get some revealing answers. They might not come the first time you ask yourself though. So keep asking a bit more.

4. When you forgive, really forgive.

"Once a woman has forgiven her man, she must not reheat his sins for breakfast."
Marlene Dietrich

"Most of us can forgive and forget; we just don't want the other person to forget that we forgave."
Ivern Ball

When you forgive, you have to really forgive. Or you will continue to wreck the relationship again and again. And yourself too.

You can view forgiveness as a way to feel like you are the better person of the two of you and then hold your forgiveness over the other person whenever you feel like it to show your superiority.

But it might be more helpful to view forgiveness as a way to release yourself and the other person from being trapped in the past. As a way to throw a big piece of self-inflicted suffering out the window and get on with the rest of your life in a more open and positive way.

5. Forgiveness is not a weakness.

"The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong."
Mahatma Gandhi

It may sound like forgiveness is a way of giving up or giving in. As a way to be a weak person. While the ones not forgiving are angry, powerful and strong. Such ideas may float around in various parts of your world and society.

But reality is a bit different. Not forgiving just seems to mostly eat you up inside. Your feel angry and may even wish for revenge. You replay arguments and memories over and over. While the person you are resentful of or angry at may often not even be aware of all your thoughts and feelings. And so you go on, creating suffering for yourself.

Forgiving releases you from that suffering. It can also make you feel good about yourself. Doing difficult things you know deep down that you want to do tend to have that effect.

6. With forgiveness the future may become brighter than in your dreams.

"Forgiveness is the key to action and freedom."
Hannah Arendt

"Let us forgive each other - only then will we live in peace."
Leo Nikolaevich Tolstoy

"Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future."
Paul Boose

If you look at from a very practical perspective then forgiveness is the smart thing to do. It saves you a lot of painful expenses. It makes you clearheaded again.

Forgiveness centres you in the now and in yourself once again. You stop regretting what is already in the past. You stop feeding your thought loops of negativity with more energy. And now you can use that energy and focus that was previously spent strengthening those loops to start moving forward again.

Forgiveness might not be pleasant or something you necessarily want to do. You might think the other person is wrong and that you are right. But sometimes you have to do it anyway.

Without really forgiving moving on will be impossible.
So everyone has to choose for themselves.

Do you want to stay in this protected position of feeling right and superior?
Do you want feel like the victim who has been wronged for the rest of your life?

Or do you want make a real change in your life and world?

You will have a hard time getting them both.

It might not always be easy to forgive. But it has many big benefits. And personally I would be a bit wary of playing up forgiveness and what happened more than necessary. Many of our challenges - not all, of course - become so large and complicated in our heads that we build huge, monumental problems.

Making mountains out of molehills is a good way to strengthen a victim mentality or feeling even more right than you did before. It's an effective way to paralyse yourself. It's not a pleasurable or an effective way to live your life and to explore your true potential.

Sumber: PositivityBlog

Rabu, 6 April 2011

What if LOA doesn't work for you?

From the Desk of Kristen Howe

The 1 thing you must know if the Law of Attraction doesn’t work for you

When ‘The Secret’ hit the public eye and turned the spotlight on the Law of Attraction,people started jumping on the LOA bandwagon to attract money, success, love…you name it.

BUT if you are like most of these people then chances are good you tried to harness the power of the law of attraction but have been left with nothing to show for it (and may be worse off then when you started.)

I know where you are, I was in the same boat until I found out the hidden truth behind making the Law of Attraction work.

There is one great misconception about the Law of Attraction and, if you are almost certain that the law of attraction doesn’t work for you, have no fear, removing this misconception may be the first step to turning things around for you as it was for me.

What is this great misconception? The primary reason the Law of Attraction is probably NOT working for you, and that reason is this…

For the law of attraction to work, you HAVE to take inspired action.

I repeat…

For the law of attraction to work, you HAVE to take inspired action.

Yup…sorry to say, you can’t just sit around visualizing and have the life you desire ring your doorbell. (I’m not going to lie; years ago I believed this misconception and am I glad I learned the truth.)

Visualizing is powerful and SO IMPORTANT…feeling it and seeing it and tasting it is the beginning, the foundation, but it is not the whole picture.

Look at it this way, visualization is the thing that leads you to the right and inspired action that will make the law of attraction work for you and attract the life of your dreams.

Anyone who leads you to believe that all you have to do for the Law of Attraction to work and bring you everything you want, is sit around your house and think about it, is trying to take your money and give you nothing in return.

I need you to know this false belief is what some (not all) ‘Law of Attraction Gurus’ are counting on…because as long as you have this belief, the law of attraction won’t work for you and you’ll need them.

Don’t get me wrong, there are AMAZING teachers out there that legitimately teach the principles of the Law of Attraction (and believe me, I’ve tried them all, the good and the bad, so I know from years of personal experience.)

To help you with your journey, I’ll share with you who is the ‘real deal’…

But first IT IS ESSENTIAL that you learn how to know the difference between Inspired Action and plain old action, and we’ll talk about how to do that in my next post.

Go Big!

Kristen

Nota: Inspired Action..tindakan susulan setelah membuat permintaan berupa usaha dan ikhtiar yang dilakukan dengan semangat dan perasaan yang optimis dan penuh keyakinan yang selalu kita bincangkan dalam topik-topik sebelum ini.

Credit To: Kristen Howe



Kristen Howe adalah seorang LOA Coach yang disegani dan berjaya membantu merealisasikan serta memberi inspirasi kepada ramai berdasarkan daripada testimoni-testimoni yang diberikan kepadanya. Tunjuk ajar dan nasihat yang diberikan beliau sangat bernas, tanpa selindung dan lebih banyak berteraskan kreativiti seseorang dalam melakukan usaha dan ikhtiar/komitmen.

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